Five Ways to Love Yourself More

Monday, July 10, 2017

When you love yourself more, you become happier and more efficient in life. It's not being selfish. It's just that you have to take care of yourself first before you can actually take care of others. You have to be happy first before you can spread happiness to others.

I know sometimes we are guilty of doing something for ourselves especially when we already have a family of our own. But I think that going out there and doing something you love as an individual is one of the best gifts you can give yourself. You deserve it.

These tips may sound cliche but we often forget about them. Here are five ways to love yourself more. 

1 Watch your words.

Sometimes, you can really be the meanest to yourself. There are times when you scream nasty things to yourself in your head. You tell yourself you are stupid, you are not the best mom, you suck at work, you suck at life. Well now I tell you - just stop. I bet my life, saying bad things about yourself is not gonna change anything. Instead, be kind to yourself.

Don't be too busy telling yourself you suck that you forget to have a life. Who am I to tell you this? Well my friend, I've said bad things to myself before and it didn't get me anywhere. Choose to move on and learn from the past. My daily habit this month is to say I Love You to my reflection. I face myself with a smile and tell myself that I can do it and that I am beautiful. Beautiful in my own ways! #GoodVibes

2. Take time off to do nothing.

It's so easy to get caught up in this fast-paced world. Whether you're a student, a professional, a working mom, or a stay at home mom - there seems to be no enough time. We only got 24 hours in a day and sometimes we ask ourselves WHAT ME-TIME?

It doesn't have to be the entire day. Even spending 15 minutes of your day to yourself is already an achievement. Read a book, take a walk, go to the salon to get a new hair cut, listen to your favorite songs, write on your journal, or revamp your makeup and wardrobe! Watch the world go by and just breathe normally. Remember that being busy is very different from being productive. Choose to be productive!

3. Reconnect with your BFFs.

Best friends forever! Admit it, you miss your BFFs too! Because I do all the time. Spend some quality time with your friends and just talk about anything under the sun or whatever makes you happy and beautiful inside and out! As much as possible, meet in person instead of talking online. Do something fun together!

I do my best to reconnect with my BFFs every chance I get and it's always just a memorable moment. I don't get to see them often because we all live in different places, so whatever time we have together is greatly valued.

*My high school clique ♥

4. Say what you really want.

Do you know that I used to be VERY timid? I would refuse to join any heated conversations. I didn't like asking questions. I would usually prefer to stay silent and not say anything at all. I would let others do the talking, and I would just write my thoughts and keep them to myself. But when I started working, I felt like I was left behind.

It's really because of my previous corporate job that I became more active. I've learned to voice out and speak up for myself and sometimes for others. I realized I don't want to be a pushover. I have a voice and I've got something to say.

People are not mind-readers so say what you really want. It's vital in any kind of relationship. Be strong enough to politely voice out but also remember to respect others' opinions and feelings. Be prepared because not everyone will agree with you. Not everyone will listen. Some will even say hurtful things about you, and some may personally attack you. But something's gotta give you know. At the end of the day, you will thank yourself for saying what you really want.

I just want to add though that there are times when the best thing to do is say nothing -- but that's really another story.

5. Dream big.

Oprah once said "Create the highest, grandest vision possible for your life, because you become what you believe." I hope that whatever your dreams are, you pursue them. This is really something I'm still struggling with at this time but I'm always working on it. There's always that thought in my head that I can't achieve what I want to achieve. If you have that kind of thought too, it's time to get rid of it! It helps to always focus on our goals and think with the end in the mind.

I'm a dreamer, sometimes not a doer. But with the right attitude, I know the universe will conspire with me and my dreams. And yours too. Let's work together, shall we?

What are your dreams?
When do you think it's best to speak up? Or say nothing?
What else do you usually do to love yourself more?

Think about it.. and..
Stay happy! ♥

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